“Those we love never truly leave us. There are things that death cannot touch.”

This quote by Jack Thorne will resonate with any of us who has lost a loved one recently or even several years ago. Time does not matter when it comes to healing from this loss. However, you learn to live with the grief.

Today I’ll inform you of some heart-warming methods to keep yourself connected to your dearest one(s). The experience is liberating as well as consoling which makes bearing the loss and its pain sustainable.

As the saying goes:

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning. But anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

On that positive note, let’s go through magical approaches that keep our loved ones close to us even when they are in the world Hereafter.

Talk or write to them

Journaling your thoughts and emotions has always been the most effective way to keep the connection alive. You can talk to them anywhere you feel like they still exist or at a point that is still related to them like the deceased’s grave. Or if that would feel uncomfortable, go to their bedroom or their favorite spot and talk to them. Keep their pictures in a frame or in a wallet and whenever you feel like you need them at that moment, such as in difficult times, talk to their picture.

In the same way, you can write letters to your loved one or send an email. Expressing through written words is a sure way to make you feel connected. Many people get comforted just by talking or writing to the demised person. It could be anything, from a trivial matter to the wider world. Also, tell them you miss their presence and how your life has changed after them.

Indulge in a charitable deed dedicated to them

This is the purest form of therapy for a bereaved person. Doing something humanitarian to commemorate the loved one is extremely thoughtful, and comforting, and makes you closer to them spiritually. This sort of connection is becoming more common since it gives inner peace to those dealing with their loss.

It could be anything that you can arrange; organizing charities or fundraisers, putting together relays, or setting up sermons. The intention is to give something to the community for the sake of the deceased so they could be remembered in good thoughts.

If, unfortunately, your loved one suffered from an illness or a fatal medical condition, spreading awareness about it is a cause that will live forever.

Celebrate birthdays and anniversaries of the loved one

This is another comforting ritual that I follow religiously. It’s my way of connecting to my grandmother. She was fond of celebrating birthdays and anniversaries and I never forget her birthdays even after many years of her demise. Expressing both love and grief at the same time, her birthday every year gives me hope and teaches me how to cope with her absence.

Remembering your deceased loved one on their birthday and/or on their death anniversary makes room for the grief you’ve witnessed as it changes and evolves with every passing year. Leave flowers on their grave, gift them something or buy a present yourself thinking they would have given you a similar thing if they were alive. It shouldn’t be about gifts only. Create a post about them on social media and write your heart out. Gather their friends and talk about them. Cook their favorite meal. Donate one of their possessions.

The nature of celebration could be anything, what matters is the connection that you create with the deceased and if it comforts your suffering.

Final Thoughts

There are no set rules when it comes to coping with the grief and loss of your dearest person. To each their own. If these ways don’t feel soothing, discover your own journey of connecting. Sorrow is unique for every individual and so is the way to struggle through it. However, these comforting ways can help in keeping the person close. It also gives a sense of connection and carry on the spiritual relationship that doesn’t die with them.